- Modern friendship is amazing. You meet new people through social media, and your social media following keeps growing. Despite being in touch with more people than you can handle, there are still times when you feel alone. But why? Because on social media, you’re more concerned about how you portray yourself than how you feel.
- Who are your friends? How close are you to them? Do they vanish when things don’t go well with you? Do they care about you? Do you have someone to pick you up when it’s time?
- Many make friends at work. They make their colleagues friends and their boss friends. But let’s reverse the script and see this another way. Would you work for your current friends?
- Strong friendships are formed when you feel like you’re being seen in a non-judgmental way, where you can trust them and know that what you share is confidential. Can you trust your friend with your deepest darkest secrets?
- A solid friendship takes time and dedication to build, and one must feel seen by their friends. You can be real. You can be you. No judgments. You can brag in front of your friends without them cutting you off and start sharing “how they did do something that was great.”
- You may have a friend for a variety of reasons. With some, you like to chat. With some, you might like going out. You might enjoy having some booze with some, while some could be just obligations. To all of them, you could be a different person, and you might behave differently with them all.
- Everyone needs support, and everyone needs more friends who support them behind their backs. There is a possibility that your friends might not root for you because they might be busy, or they might not be interested, or maybe they feel insecure because you remind them that they had the same start. Perhaps it has more to do with them than it does with you. It seems bizarre that you would find more support online or among your acquaintances than in your own circle.
- Friendship isn’t about responding to every text you receive. Rather, it is about being intimate with your current friends. More often than not, you don’t need more friends. The only thing you need is your existing friends to step up and be better friends.
But that’s just my take. Comment and share yours.
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